TY - JOUR
T1 - From first email to first date
T2 - Strategies for initiating relationships in online dating
AU - Sharabi, Liesel L.
AU - Dykstra-DeVette, Tiffany A.
N1 - Funding Information:
The authors would like to thank Keith Berman and Alexandra Mages for their assistance with data collection, as well as the editor and three anonymous reviewers for their valuable feedback. The author(s) received financial support for the research, authorship, and/or publication of this article: Support for this study was provided by the Ruth Anne Clark Award Fund at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign.
Publisher Copyright:
© The Author(s) 2019.
PY - 2019/11/1
Y1 - 2019/11/1
N2 - The present study explores the relationship initiation process in online dating using participants’ (N = 105) naturally occurring email messages to a prospective romantic partner. Data were collected online at time one, and participants were recontacted at time two (after meeting their partner offline) to assess the likelihood of continued interaction. A qualitative content analysis uncovered 7 broad categories and 18 subcategories of strategies for initiating relationships in online dating. The analysis indicated that participants’ relationships followed a trajectory that often began with the use of pickup lines to initiate contact and culminated with the transition offline. Along the way, they alternated between strategies for attracting and selecting a partner, constructing an authentic self-presentation, creating a shared context for interaction, revealing and seeking information, and adapting to the online dating environment. Additional quantitative analyses revealed differences in strategy use related to gender and the outcome of the first date. That is, men were generally more direct than women (e.g., by sending the first message), and those who discussed their mate preferences tended to report a higher likelihood of a second date than other participants. The results have implications for the hyperpersonal model, as well as for illuminating the evolution of online dating relationships from the first contact with a partner to meeting offline.
AB - The present study explores the relationship initiation process in online dating using participants’ (N = 105) naturally occurring email messages to a prospective romantic partner. Data were collected online at time one, and participants were recontacted at time two (after meeting their partner offline) to assess the likelihood of continued interaction. A qualitative content analysis uncovered 7 broad categories and 18 subcategories of strategies for initiating relationships in online dating. The analysis indicated that participants’ relationships followed a trajectory that often began with the use of pickup lines to initiate contact and culminated with the transition offline. Along the way, they alternated between strategies for attracting and selecting a partner, constructing an authentic self-presentation, creating a shared context for interaction, revealing and seeking information, and adapting to the online dating environment. Additional quantitative analyses revealed differences in strategy use related to gender and the outcome of the first date. That is, men were generally more direct than women (e.g., by sending the first message), and those who discussed their mate preferences tended to report a higher likelihood of a second date than other participants. The results have implications for the hyperpersonal model, as well as for illuminating the evolution of online dating relationships from the first contact with a partner to meeting offline.
KW - Content analysis
KW - first dates
KW - gender differences
KW - online dating
KW - relationship initiation
KW - romantic relationships
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U2 - 10.1177/0265407518822780
DO - 10.1177/0265407518822780
M3 - Article
AN - SCOPUS:85060567896
SN - 0265-4075
VL - 36
SP - 3389
EP - 3407
JO - Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
JF - Journal of Social and Personal Relationships
IS - 11-12
ER -